Updateeeeee

Hello readers, 

 

I know that I have been MIA for most of this month, but I have a really good reason; I got a new job, my photography business is picking up, AND I'm moving. That's right, this girl right here, is going to be a big time city girl in a couple of weeks. All right, maybe not big time, but everyday I will be coming out of my house like Barbara Streisand in Funny Girl, when she is headed into the city.

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If you haven't seen Funny Girl, get on it! 

Anyway, don't fret my friends, I'll be putting up two yummy recipes later this week. And when everything finally settles down, I'll be back on my normal weekly schedule!

 

As Always,

A

5 Ways To Be Happier

When we're over-stressed and over-worked sometimes it's hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel. It may not even be stress that has been keeping you down in the dumps, you may just be having a bad week, or a bad month, or even a bad year. Well, here are 6 ways to get happier. I'm not promising that this is the magic formula that will solve your problems, but I can tell you that more problems are solved when you're happier. 

 

1. Exercise!

You don't have to go and run a marathon, you can do 5-7 minutes of exercise. Jog and place, do a couple of sit ups, dance, just get moving. If I learned anything from Legally Blonde, it's that exercise gives you endorphins, which make you happy, and won't make you want to murder anybody. 

Endorphins are a chemical in your brain that gets released after exercising and other strenuous activity, and it gives you a euphoric felling. That's why your brain might tell you that you can conquer the world after that spin class, even though your body disagrees. 

So get out there and get moving! 

 

2. Get Outside!

Now that spring is on its way, it's time to get from under the covers, pull back the curtains, and step outside. When you're outside and in nature, it's hard to stay down. Even if you live in a city,  being outside is great for you because of our buddy, the sun. Not only does the sun keep us nice and toasty, it also shoots Vitamin D our way. Vitamin D helps boost and regulate our immune system, which in turn makes us healthier and happier. 

 

3. Get More Sleep!

I know that this is easier said than done, but this could just be going to sleep an hour earlier or taking a 10 minute nap at your desk. We all know that feeling that we get when we only get four hours of sleep and it is no where near happiness. Sleeping more makes a person more optimistic about the day to come.

3b. Another thing that will help you wake up smoother and lead to being happier in the morning is getting your ducks in order the night before. Pick out your outfit, set out everything that you need to take to work/school, make a mental or physical note about everything that you need to do before you leave the house in the morning. That way, when you wake up you're not running around trying to remember what you need to do or bring. When I have all of my stuff in order for the next day, I often even get an extra 10-15 minutes of sleep in; that can be the difference of me waking up happy vs. me waking up like a monster.

4. Try Something New!

Keeping the same schedule everyday can seem so mundane and makes your week sometimes seem never ending. Trying something new is a great way not only to spice up your week, but it is also an easy way to take a break from your normal schedule. You can do something small like take advantage of a free dance class that you've never tried, or you can do something big like learning a new language; just get out there and try something.

I am one of those people who try to do something new every couple of months, and the key to keeping it happy is to not be disappointed or upset if you're not the best at whatever you're trying. Most people aren't good at things when they first start, which is why you have to keep at it. Eventually you'll get better at it which will make you even happier in the end!

5. Let It Go!

Elsa it up, stop holding on to the things that are keeping you down. For Elsa it was keeping her true self hidden that kept her unhappy. Letting go of negative emotions like fear and anger, is a sure fire way of being happier. Holding on to things that people have done to you in the past, or things that people have said, leads to resentment. Resentment ends up being carried around on your shoulders weighing you down. Even though it may be hard to do at first, once you let go of what's holding you down you'll be happier. 

Trying at least one of these things will make your happier. If you keep doing these things repetitively, you will be sure to be happier in the long run!

What is is that makes YOU happier?

As Always,

A

 

Be Unapologetically You

When I was younger I tried to be everyone else but me. I thought that I wasn't enough of anything, and that I was always in the middle of everything. I wasn't quirky enough to be considered quirky,  I wasn't cool enough to hang with the cool kids, I wasn't angry enough to start a revolution, and there was even a time when I thought that I wasn't sad enough to be depressed. And the thing is that it wasn't that I wasn't enough for other people, I wasn't enough for myself. Or at least I thought that I wasn't. I spent so much time stuck in my head, thinking that I had to be more, more of something, more of anything, when in reality I just had to get comfortable with myself. 

When I turned 20, I decided that even though I wasn't quite sure who I was, no one else would know that. I developed this fake confidence, and stuck to the motto "fake it till you make it". I thought that I had become more free and let my true self show, but the more that I "faked it", the more that I found myself separating from who I truly was. Eventually I found myself depressed because I wasn't dealing with who I actually was, and it was taking a huge toll on me. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, and I could barely move. It took me a couple of years to figure out why I was depressed and how I was going to get myself out of it. 

After what I felt was a lifetime, I finally came out of the depression; with not just help from friends and a therapist, but also with a huge push from myself. I realized that you can't change unless you are ready to. I was finally able to allow myself to be, well me.

I tell you all of this, because it took me 22 years to become myself and I won't allow anybody else to make me feel bad or put me down because of it.

I am a huge weirdo, who is sometimes loud and bossy, who is sometimes quiet, who sometimes likes to be alone, who loves musicals, who loves to sing badly (even though I can hold a note, singing badly is just more fun), who loves to create, and I will NEVER apologize for who I am. And you shouldn't either. 

It also took me a long time to figure out that the people who truly love you, won't try to make you apologize for who you are. If you feel pressure to change who you are (and I mean who you truly are to the core of your being, not the person that you may pretend to be), then you may want to surround yourself with different people.

BE YOU!

Be weird, be loud, be quiet, be creative, be brave, be crazy, be wild, be free. Be yourself, unapologetically.

It takes so long to figure out who you are, so don't be anybody else. 

As Always,

A

 

Do Your Thing!

Recently I rediscovered N'Sync's song Do Your Thing, and I think that since that day it's my most played song. If you were never an N'Sync fan or just have never heard this song, it is worth the listen. This is the song that gets me going everyday, partly because I don't want to disappoint young Justin Timberlake by not doing my thing, but also because it's just really motivational. If I'm in a funk or having a hard time getting myself going, all I have to do is listen to the chorus and I'm ready to go.

"Are you doing your thing and doing it well?
Are they looking at you hating singing, ooh?
Are you doing your thing and doing it good?
Do your thing"

 

They also repeat "believe can nobody do it better than you" throughout the song. When I was younger I think that I loved the song because I was in love with Justin Timberlake and I thought that the music was nice, but as an adult I feel that I can relate to the questions that they ask throughout the song. Before you laugh, how do you think your days would be different if every morning you asked yourself, "are you doing your thing and doing it well?" Just by asking yourself that, you stop to think, "am I at my best"? 

I'm not writing this to just dissect the song Do Your Thing, but I want to talk about finding and doing your thing; not just your thing, but your thang!

What's the difference between a thing and a thang, well it's mostly about the emphasis behind it. When you're doing your thang, you're doing what makes your soul sing. Odds are that you have an idea of what it is that cause your soul to do flips, that thing that gives you utter satisfaction in the pit of your stomach. For me, it's creating. When I'm creating something whether it be through photography, writing, or drawing, I feel at my best. Not sure what your thang is quite yet? That's okay, you don't have to know it right now. 

Doing your thang doesn't only have to apply to doing that one thing that gives you joy, but it can be applied to your daily life. You would be doing your thang daily if you put yourself into everything that you do, and do everything to your fullest extent. Not only does it mean that you would be trying to do your best with everything that you do, but doing your thang daily makes you feel better at the end of the day. Imagine how your day different your day would be if you told yourself everyday that you were going to do your best.

I'd like to hear from you:

Is there a song that gets you motivated to do your best?

What's your thang?

As Always,

A

5 Ways to Stop Doubting Yourself

Well hello again,

I know that we've just met, but I want you to know that you CAN do whatever you set your mind to. Don't let the thought of failing stop you from following your dreams. Whether your dream is to own an ice cream truck or paint the next Mona Lisa, keep working for it! Beat the odds! Define yourself! 

Don't let a seed of doubt grow in your mind, because once it's there it's hard to overcome it. Hard, but not impossible! 

If you're doubting yourself, here are several ways to pluck that weed out of your mind.

  1. Figure out what it is that you want to work towards.
    • What is it that you want to do?
    • What are the steps that you need to take to get there?
  2. Set a goal
    • After you figure out what you want to do make daily, weekly, or yearly goals.
    • Your goal can be as small as getting out of bed every morning or as big as owning a fortune 500 company. 
    • Whatever your goal is make sure that you know what will be necessary to reach it.
      • I.e. If your goal is to become a racecar driver, be sure to that you have or are able to get your driver's license.
  3. Start your day by saying positive affirmations to help keep the doubt out of your mind.
    • Positive affirmations are positive thoughts or phrases that you say to yourself daily.
      • "I CAN do this"
      • "I AM beautiful"
      • "Today IS going to be a great day" 
    • Starting your day on a positive not only helps boost your self-esteem, but it also gets you started in the right direction. 
    • A daily affirmation doesn't just have to be in the morning
      • You can say affirmations as much as you need to. 
  4. Keep working towards your goals
    • Don't stop until you've reached your goal
  5. Remember that goals can change, and that it all right. 
    • You may be in the middle of working towards a goal only to realize that it's not for you. That doesn't make you a failure, it only means that there is a bigger goal out there for you. 

No one started out at the end of their journey, so even if you are stuck or you don't know what you're doing with your life, you still have time to figure it all out. 

Take it one day at a time

As Always,

A

 

Being In The Middle

Hey there, 

I see that you have stumbled upon this fresh new blog! Well take a seat and let me fill you in on why I'm writing. 

For years I've always been in the middle: I was born the middle child, my life has dropped me in the middle of hard situations, and I often find myself in the middle of (self-proclaimed) awkward things. I thought that it would be nice to start a blog for people who often find themselves in the middle as well. This blog will strive to offer inspiration and motivation to people who find themselves, well, stuck in the middle

Each week I will be offering inspirational posts, DIYs, an ear for anyone who needs one, and just a little bit of myself in each post. I will help you get out of the middle and on top of your true potential. I look forward to growing and learning with you!

As Always, 

A